Deserving better

Sometimes admitting that you deserve better and having the courage to go out and get it is the only way.


Achieving daily clarity

When we have fewer options, decisions are easier to make. Keeping life as simple as possible is the key to retaining mental clarity and enabling ourselves to focus on what really matters. When we focus on what matters, we allow ourselves to let go of petty worries and to dismiss insignificant distractions.

The busyness of the world around us can trick us into thinking that life is a race. But life is one of the finest examples of quality triumphing over quantity. Taking a few minutes in the morning to focus on what we want out of the day is a great way to set our minds on the right track before we become swept away by the priorities and agendas of others. Our eyes and ears are easy targets for media and social clutter, from advertisements to idle gossip. Taking a few minutes in the afternoon to recalibrate allows us to assess our actions: is what I am doing right this minute contributing towards my daily goal? Is what I am doing right this minute contributing towards my wellbeing? If we have let distractions or negative thoughts creep into our day, now is the time to eliminate them. If possible, try stepping outside for a breath of fresh air, looking up at the sky and focusing on the vastness of the universe. This is a great way to get a snapshot of the ‘bigger picture’ and to put our daily stresses into perspective. Alternatively, closing our eyes for a moment to revisit happy memories with friends and family or beautiful places we have been – triggering good feelings – can help to alleviate the chaos and pressure that develops during the day.

Taking time out to reflect on our actions allows us to wipe the slate clean and to finish the day in the positive and purposeful manner in which we started it. We should strive to make sure that the last thing we do in our day is aligned with what we set out to achieve. That way, a day will never be wasted and we will never feel dissatisfied with our efforts. Added to this, we will have the peace of mind and satisfaction that we are in control of our lives, taking responsibility for our own welfare and productivity.

Radiators and drains

Sustainable Giving for Radiators

It is often said that there are two types of people in life: radiators and drains: those who give and those who take. Natural radiators are often magnets for drains, who sense our warmth and energy and come flocking to drink it up. This, of course, can be very draining. So what can we radiators do to protect ourselves against depletion?

It is very difficult for any of us to change our fundamental nature. For radiators, the natural desire to give is spontaneous and overriding. As such, we can often find ourselves having already given away too much of our resources before we realise it. It’s therefore important for radiators to learn to recognise and anticipate situations that can potentially lead us to being bled dry. This way, we can take the necessary precautions to protect ourselves from overuse, helping to maintain a healthy, happy and balanced life. As radiators, we need to ensure that whilst we love to give, we are still able to retain a little heat, warmth and energy for our own needs.

~ Invest Your Energy ~

Investing our energy into positive projects that benefit multiple individuals can be an efficient way of helping others, without using up all our resources and leaving us feeling sapped at the end of the day. This might take the form of a motivational blog that can be accessed time and time again, featuring Daily Quotes to inspire and support others, whilst simultaneously serving to replenish our own mental reserves. Another type of positive project might be investing in a charitable cause that we believe in, something that is both sustainable and fulfilling. These are just two examples of how strategically directing our energy and resources allows us to regulate our expenditure. This type of regulation is useful for those of us who are drawn to committing too much of our physical and mental strength to fixing other people’s problems, at the expense of our own wellbeing. Yes, it’s good to give, but we can only successfully give from what we’ve got. Situations in which we’re giving from what we haven’t got is not only detrimental to our welfare, but invariably leads to feelings of frustration and resentment, both towards ourselves and towards those who are draining us. Overall, our health and happiness depends upon our ability to identify times when we are in a position to give and times when we need to step back and refuel.

~ Signs Of Depletion ~

For radiators, it is often difficult to recognise when we are being bled dry. Our loyalty and commitment to significant people or causes in our lives, combined with our tendency to want to help, can sometimes affect our ability to give sustainably. Nevertheless, there are some telltale signs that we are expending more than we have, which, if we heed them, can help us to apply the brakes before we crash and burn. These include physical and mental fatigue, headaches, tense muscles, tight chest, irritability and avoidance. These physical and emotional reactions represent the stress, imbalance and discontent that we feel from overuse, which if left unaddressed can lead to more persistent and pervasive problems. It is therefore crucial for radiators to adopt strategies that guard against depletion in a fast-paced world that is filled with thirsty drains.

Radiators are like the sun, naturally generating warmth, light and energy for the benefit of those around us. However, unlike the sun, we are not indefatigable. This truth never occurs to drains, who are only ever concerned about what they can get. Achieving balance as a radiator means taking positive steps to protect ourselves from exploitation. This does not mean that we should withdraw our emotional or other support from friends and family, but rather we should learn to recognise when we are running low on reserves and be cautious about supplying energy to drains when we are most vulnerable. Drains, by their nature, are never fully satisfied and will always want more. To prevent becoming exhausted, we radiators need to be in control of our giving. We must learn to recognise when to reach for our own stop taps, in order to ensure that we have enough supplies left to meet our own needs. Knowing how and when to say “no” at times when we are less equipped to support others is key to managing our energy reserves and maintaining balance and contentment in our lives.